I used to be listening to a podcast with Margaret Atwood the opposite day, and was struck by her low voice… which type of made me take into consideration my MIL’s low voice. And the way I typically decrease my voice unconsciously once I’m attempting to really feel extra authoritative, or severe. It’s been far too lengthy since we talked about govt presence, so let’s focus on… what do you do to really feel extra authoritative? What do you deliberately — and what do you do deliberately? While you consider authoritative, highly effective ladies you recognize, what traits of theirs make them appear extra authoritative?
(By the way, right here’s a fascinating New Yorker article about why we could affiliate decrease voices with extra authority — Congress restricted bandwidth allotted for radio stations, and most broadcasters finally restricted their alerts to a “voiceband” vary that solely accommodated low voices as “naked minimal quantity of frequency data wanted to adequately transmit speech.”)
For my $.02, right here’s what I do to attempt to really feel extra authoritative…
- reducing my voice (yep)
- having deliberate talking factors (and serious about them as bullet factors) — if it’s a ready speech having not less than the primary 3 minutes memorized and practiced
- having higher posture (or prepare myself within the chair in what I believe is an suave manner)
- not fussing with my look, like tugging at garments or shifting my hair
- (I stink at it, however I do attempt to restrict fillers equivalent to “like” and “um” — and be comfy with silence for no matter time I have to reply a query thoughtfully)
There’s been so much written through the years about how lots of these items are sexist and based mostly on stereotyped notions of what males with govt presence appear like… so I’m to know for those who’re doing issues in a different way.
(By way of what traits are shared by probably the most authoritative, highly effective folks I do know or have seen converse, I believe it’s my final level – the consolation with silence to reply a query thoughtfully. However then that’s a luxurious that isn’t at all times afforded to ladies for those who’re in a gathering with individuals who will speak over you…)
Readers, what are your ideas? What do you do to really feel extra authoritative — deliberately or unintentionally? What traits do you assume make somebody appear authoritative generally?
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